Category Archives: Third Trimester

Party of Four: 34 weeks, emotional rollercoaster, nursery designs, and more pre-term labor scares

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Party of Four: 34 weeks, emotional rollercoaster, nursery designs, and more pre-term labor scares

“Parents are often so busy with the physical rearing of children that they miss the glory of parenthood, just as the grandeur of the trees is lost when raking leaves.” –Marcelene Cox

Cast Your Votes

Cast Your Votes

A little fun: Here is the link to a little prediction game we set up for Genesis. Take a guess at her weight and birth date. We will announce winners a few days after she is born. http://www.expectnet.com/games/BabyGenesis

Baby Notes: I tend to keep this baby notes section mainly informational, however, becoming a parent is a pretty emotional journey. Expressing personal emotions and feelings is risky in such a public forum, but I had to remember my sole purpose for creating this blog was to share my experience completely to help others realize they are not alone. I am pretty sure this emotional journey has been heightened for me due to my limited mobility and being put on bedrest since four and a half months, but I am very cautious of making any excuses or giving some rational and logical explanation to my feelings (I personally feel as women we tend to do this a lot, but that is a whole other blog post).

emotional rollercoaster

The day I found out I was going to be a mom changed my life forever. I immediately, literally immediately, began changing my mindset about several relationships I had in my life, my relationship with God, my marriage, my confidence within myself, even child rearing practices that I thought I would never even consider. The first few months I didn’t take it so serious, then as my belly grew so did my desire to try and “fix” all of these internal conflicts that I had with the before mentioned categories. For weeks, maybe even months I felt like I was on an emotional rollercoaster. This was demonstrated through several days of isolating (sometimes weeks), a lot of crying, and a TON of pretending that everything was okay when people asked. As I grew deeper into this process I started questioning friendships and why I had been drawn to certain people, why I always felt that I needed to be everyone’s cheerleader, my obsession with being understood and accepted by others, my fixation on being fulfilled through work performance and educational accolades, and the innate need to continue to support people even when I wasn’t getting any in return. But this process also helped me to become a best friend to my husband, learn how to say no even when pressured, securing more confidence in my truth that raising this child is the most important job I will have on this planet besides being a wife, and identify my needs (though I am still working on fulfilling them).

I have started to accept that fact (started) that all these questions don’t have to be answered before my daughter arrives. At first I felt it was a disservice to her if I didn’t. She didn’t ask to be brought into this world and I owed it to her to be at my best no matter how much or little time was given. Then I realized how completely unrealistic that was. I do believe that once you decide to become a parent that it is your responsibility to better yourself, however I think the amazing life lessons our little ones can learn from us by merely watching us become better people is also so vital. Overall I don’t think I will ever be the same Monique I was before getting pregnant; sometimes that makes me elated and sometimes it causes immense loneliness. I am learning to take the good with the bad, develop new ways to cope, and trusting in God’s plan.

This past month in pictures:

Sneak peek of the nursery.  Byron actually has a baby picture of him with this exact frog!  I can't wait for Genesis to have a matching picture like Daddy.

Sneak peek of the nursery. Byron actually has a baby picture of him with this exact frog! I can’t wait for Genesis to have a matching picture like Daddy.

In the wake of pre-term labor contractions Byron went and made the MOST amazing pain reliever!

In the wake of pre-term labor contractions Byron went and made the MOST amazing pain reliever!

Our baby shower!

Our baby shower!

3D/4D Ultrasound Day

3D/4D Ultrasound Day

Maternity Shoot Day

Maternity Shoot Day

First day in parenting class.

First day in parenting class.

Weeks 31-34: There are so many updates from these past few weeks so I put them in bullet point to keep me from being long winded.

Maternity Pictures: We had our home maternity shoot which was tons of fun! I am a little sad that we didn’t get any outside shots but I think being at home really captured our journey during this pregnancy. We have about another week before they come back and can’t wait to share them with you all.

3D/4D Ultrasound: We actually had to go twice because Genesis did not want to look at the camera the first time (for some reason this girl is in love with sleeping head down on my placenta). The second time we went back she still wasn’t willing to put on a show until the last five minutes where she actually gave us a glimpse of her dimple on her left cheek! I had dimples on both cheeks so I am hoping for a little mini me in this category. She also had a lot of hair!!!

Nursery: Genesis’ nursery is officially underway. We don’t think we will actually completely finish it until she is about three months old. Her room is doubling as our guest room as well, so with the furniture needed for guests we can not fit all her furniture in it until after we completely transfer it to her room.

Parenting Classes: We have finished 6 out of 7 of our parenting classes which have been pretty fun. It’s pretty cool getting to know other couples throughout the process and one of the couples actually had their baby and sent pictures which was pretty cool.

Belly buds: I started using belly buds for Genesis. I made her a little playlist of some of my favorite songs (including a little gospel, country, and of course John Mayer). Byron has recorded two books for her I play for her too. She literally sits still when Byron voices comes on, it is the sweetest thing.

Birth Plan: We finished and presented our birth plan to our doctor, which she took very well. The hospital has approved for me to take my placenta home after a quick blood test which I am very excited about! If you want a copy of our birth plan shoot me an email and I am more than willing to share it: Monique.a.dozier@gmail.com

Baby Shower: We had our baby shower which was a BLAST! We got rained out of the backyard so we changed to an inside location at my church which was such a blessing. I was so overwhelmed with love that day and can’t thank all our friends and family enough for everything. It was a day I won’t forget. Check out my Facebook page for more pictures I will be posting very soon!

Weight Loss: In the past two weeks I have lost almost five pounds which made me really nervous. Will be talking to doctor about this at our appointment this week.

Pre-term labor: We have had a few more pre-term labor scares which we took a lot better this time around. I immediately laid down, elevated my feet, and Byron went into action with massages. I am so happy to labor with my husband. He has really just jumped into being a great birth partner!

34 Weeks!  I looked so drained in this picture, but hey this is pregnancy!

34 Weeks! I looked so drained in this picture, but hey this is pregnancy!

Baby Updates:

Today the baby is the size of: large cantaloupe

Cravings: Chili Cheese Fries

Next Appointment: August 8th (officially start our weekly appointments)

Mochi Update: No updates this month.

Mommy feels: moments of high energy and complete exhaustion, more nauseous, and some lightheadness.

Coming next week: Hospital Bag!

Thank you for joining us on this wonderful journey!

Always with love,
Modo

Party of Four: 30 Week Update, Placenta Encapsulation, and Midnight Snacking

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Party of Four: 30 Week Update, Placenta Encapsulation, and Midnight Snacking

“Never raise your hand to your children – it leaves your midsection unprotected” -Robert Orben

Baby Notes: Are you seriously going to eat that? I have gotten TONS of questions (i.e. questions, criticism, and outright disapproving faces) about why we have chosen to encapsulate my placenta after Genesis’ birth. I have included the website of the woman that Byron and I are using to encapsulate below to get an expert’s advice and opinion of the benefits of ingesting your placenta. For me personally I have decided to encapsulate for two main reasons: increase flow of breast milk and regulate hormones. The women in my family have ranged from having “just enough milk” to producing enough milk for multiple children at once. I am not sure where I will fall in that line. Breastfeeding is so important to me and I want to increase my chances as much as possible. Postpartum depression is very real and rarely talked about. With Genesis being my first I am not sure how I will react emotionally after the baby. I keep it no secret that I am already an emotional being and want to protect myself from baby blues as much as possible. Placenta encapsulation for some may be a very strange thing, however, I wanted to at least start a conversation that some may have never participated in.

Are you going to eat that?

Are you going to eat that?

Frequently Asked Questions:

Are you going to actually eat your placenta?-Encapsulating the placenta is a two day process. The first day I will have it picked up from the hospital then a family member will meet the tech at my house. She will start the process of dehydrating the placenta. The second day she will come back and grind it into capsules, in which I will take for the first few weeks after the birth of my daughter. However there are several ways to get nutrients from placenta, which do at times include making a stew, smoothie, or tea.

Do you take your prenatal vitamin in addition to your placenta pill?
-Yes

Are there any risks to ingesting your placenta?-Very little. I was informed that the only time I should stop taking my pills is if I get a cold or the flu as it could speed up the process of the illness

How much does it cost?-Typically around $250 for the entire process

These past few weeks in pictures:

10 Weeks to Go!

10 Weeks to Go!

I passed!!!!

I passed!!!!

Thank you all for your votes!  This will be the diaper bag that we take to the hospital for Baby Genesis!

Thank you all for your votes! This will be the diaper bag that we take to the hospital for Baby Genesis!

My closet before and after.

My closet before and after.

Weeks 29-30: It’s been a busy few weeks Mommy in regards to planning. We are in the process of deciding on our birth plan preferences, searching for a pediatrician, booked our maternity photo shoot, and signed our contract with the woman that will encapsulate our placenta. Since we are getting closer for Genesis to arrive we also have started having doctor’s appointments every two weeks. At our last appointment we had an unscheduled ultrasound with our OBGYN to make sure Genesis was not measuring too far ahead. We were so excited that my brother and nephew were able to join us and see Genesis in action. Doctor reported she is measuring PERFECT and is already 3lbs!!!! Can we say someone is going to be a little chunky monkey? We also have been packing up the house to move in a few months, but recently found out that our move may be postponed. We continue to be presented with so many great opportunities, but I must say it does create a bit of anxiety not knowing. But, we can NOT complain at all because we continue to be so blessed!

30 weeks!

30 weeks!

Today the baby is the size of: a cucumber

Cravings: Fruit, fish, and spicy food

Next Appointment: July 12th

Mochi Update: Mochi turns 1 tomorrow!!! Happy birthday Mochi!

Mommy feels: full of energy during the day! However almost every night I wake up between 3:00am and 3:30am starving or with terrible leg cramps. Byron has literally woken up to me cooking Top Ramen and eating string cheese in the dark in the kitchen. HA! In addition I have also been having the most invasive heartburn! Even taking my vitamins makes me want to run and grab the Tums. We are getting so excited about the very near arrival of our baby girl! Byron and I spend so much time playing the guessing game: will she have my dimples and his patience? Will she have hair when she is born? Who will she cry less with? So soon we won’t have to guess!!!!

Coming next week: 3D/4D ultrasound pictures, maternity shoot preview, and our first parenting class!

Thank you for joining us on this wonderful journey!

Always with love,
Modo

Party of Four: Third Trimester Update, Summer Fun, Writing a New Piece, and YouTube?

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Party of Four: Third Trimester Update, Summer Fun, Writing a New Piece, and YouTube?

“One of the virtues of being very young is that you don’t let the facts get in the way of your imagination.”

Baby Notes
: Since conceiving I have become completely and utterly obsessed with YouTube. I originally started watching a few mothers on the site to get more information about having a natural birth and then one day I discovered the suggestion column! In thirty minutes I was following “natural hair moms”, “breast feeding moms”, “natural mamas”, Endo moms”, “stay at home moms”, and “Wendy Williams”. A few weeks ago after following a mom for nearly five months she went into labor and I literally could not stop checking for updates to her videos. I started to feel almost connected to her in a way even though we lived over 2, 000 miles away from each other, had never spoken, and didn’t even know each other’s first names. But as I watched her home birth I shed tears. Clearly I need more friends! But honestly the site allows people to share so many life changing moments with the world and in a way creates a real life journal for your children one day.

"To YouTube or not to YouTube....that is the question."

“To YouTube or not to YouTube….that is the question.”

Then I thought maybe I should create a YouTube page! Blogging about my pregnancy I have gotten quite a few questions about some of my choices for the baby, become part of an entirely new network of parents, and I seriously just LOVE sharing moments with people. I hurriedly logged into YouTube to create a new account and started brainstorming channel names, then I stopped in middle of my creative flow and realized if I do this I have to actually put my baby on here! The X button couldn’t have gotten pushed fast enough. For some reason posting video of my child started to concern me. Why you ask? I have no freaking idea. Maybe I think I will develop a stalker and they will try and come and find me and my family…self-absorbed much?! Who says you “develop” a stalker, like you just create one in your living room or something…..Monique get a hold of your self. I swear since I have become a mom I have become so certain about some issues and even more confused about others. What are your thoughts on sharing pictures and video of children on public websites? How do you protect yourself if you do?

Summer Fun:

My friend Ebony and I are due just two weeks apart from each other!  We seriously probably were sisters in another life: we grew up in the same city, went to the same undergrad and graduate school, joined the same sisterhood, and now are having our first children just two weeks apart.  She is expecting her first son early October and though I was on bedrest I couldn't miss her baby shower!  This picture totally captures us with no words.

My friend Ebony and I are due just two weeks apart from each other! We seriously probably were sisters in another life: we grew up in the same city, went to the same undergrad and graduate school, joined the same sisterhood, and now are having our first children just two weeks apart. She is expecting her first son early October and though I was on bedrest I couldn’t miss her baby shower! This picture totally captures us with no words.

My nephew/godson celebrated both his 6th birthday and graduating from Kindergarten!  It was so hard not to burst into tears.  He has gotten so big so fast.  Feels just like yesterday I was rushing to the hospital to see him for the first time.

My nephew/godson celebrated both his 6th birthday and graduating from Kindergarten! It was so hard not to burst into tears. He has gotten so big so fast. Feels just like yesterday I was rushing to the hospital to see him for the first time.

Boys crazy hat fishing trip to celebrate Alex graduation.

Boys crazy hat fishing trip to celebrate Alex graduation.

All my siblings and their children on Memorial Day!

All my siblings and their children on Memorial Day!

We threw a surprise party for my mother's birthday this year!  I can't express how much I love this woman.  Being pregnant with my first makes me realize just how much a mother loves her child.  Sometimes as we grow up we forget this.  I only hope one day I can be as beautiful as she is.  I have one hot mama.

We threw a surprise party for my mother’s birthday this year! I can’t express how much I love this woman. Being pregnant with my first makes me realize just how much a mother loves her child. Sometimes as we grow up we forget this. I only hope one day I can be as beautiful as she is. I have one hot mama.

 My honey celebrating his first father's day!

My honey celebrating his first father’s day!

Father's Day Relaxation

Father’s Day Relaxation

Some of you may remember a few months back I featured a few of my sorority sisters that were all expecting or had their first baby.  Well Heather was the first to have her baby out of our little group!  How euphoric does she look right here!  It makes it so real that Genesis is on her way.  I am SOOOOOOOOOO happy for Heather and her family she is such a beautiful person (inside and out).  Can't wait to meet this little cutie soon.

Some of you may remember a few months back I featured a few of my sorority sisters that were all expecting or had their first baby. Well Heather was the first to have her baby out of our little group! How euphoric does she look right here! It makes it so real that Genesis is on her way. I am SOOOOOOOOOO happy for Heather and her family she is such a beautiful person (inside and out). Can’t wait to meet this little cutie soon.

Weeks 25-28:

Third Trimester

I can’t believe we are already in the third trimester! These past few weeks have flown by. At our last doctor’s appointment I was measuring 10 weeks early again, which concerned the doctor a little. She is pretty sure it is my fibroid growing again but she ordered an ultrasound for a few weeks just to make sure. I also took my glucose test (still waiting on results), which I am a bit nervous about since my cravings last month was sweets!

Please let me pass!

Please let me pass!

We also had a little preterm labor scare again a few weeks ago. I started having some wicked contractions that just wouldn’t ease up for nearly thirty minutes. After that we decided to expedite preparing a hospital bag and creating a little emergency stash of important things (bag of diapers, washed onesies, etc…) just in case our little princess arrives early. I am also preparing a meeting with my labor team 🙂 This just consists of my husband, mother, and sisters, but they all have pretty important roles that I have asked of them for when I go into labor and I think it’s good just to be all on one page. Other than that we are just gearing up for the baby shower next month and slowly packing boxes since we will be moving just short of 4-6 weeks after Genesis is born.

Baby Updates:

We are into our 7th month of pregnancy!

28 weeks and 1 day After forcing my brother to take this picture over and over because I thought he was taking unflattering pics of me I realized OMG I am  JUST that big.

28 weeks and 1 day
After forcing my brother to take this picture over and over because I thought he was taking unflattering pics of me I realized OMG I am JUST that big.

Today the baby is the size of: a small cabbage

Cravings: Nothing really. Cravings have calmed down a bit and appetite has gone back to normal. I really don’t enjoy sitting down and eating full meals all the time but prefer to snack.

Next Appointment: June 28th

Mochi Update: Here is a recent picture we got from Mochi’s new family!

Mochi will celebrate her 1st birthday on July 7th!  Happy  early Birthday Mochi!!

Mochi will celebrate her 1st birthday on July 7th! Happy early Birthday Mochi!!

Mommy feels: nauseous! I’ve been having some first trimester symptoms again recently: fatigue, leg cramps, achy, and nauseous. These past few weeks I have also been having sharp shooting pains running down my leg. I believe Genesis is sitting on one of my nerves because it only last for about thirty minutes and then eases up. My energy is back up and I have been totally nesting (washing clothes and cleaning out space for her arrival). I have also been feeling a lot more creative lately: finishing her blanket, working on a scrapbook, and actually started writing a new piece for blog. I kind of forget that those pieces were what helped me stat the blog in the first place. So look out for a new piece in a few weeks.

Thank you for joining us on this wonderful journey!

Always with love,
Modo