Many of you know I am a pretty vocal person; especially when it comes to race related issues, but these past few weeks have left me speechless. Literally I just am devastated by the message that is being sent to all the black men of this nation. So instead of ranting I just want to remind all my black brothers in and out my life that I VALUE, LOVE, RESPECT, ADMIRE, AND HONOR you. I promise to raise my sons (future) and daughters with knowledge of their culture. I ask all my counterparts to educate their children about race relations in this country ESPECIALLY if you are not Black. For me it starts at home! I hugged Byron Dozier extra tight last night and will continue to everyday because in this sad sad nation (world) we live in I have to prematurely say goodbye (metaphorically and literally) daily just as a precaution. Heart breaks. Always with love. Modo.
What I’ve learned this week from having two kids under the age of 3:
1. You will say these words A LOT: wait, sit down, No, I love you, and fine you can have it.
2 You lie often…usually about what an item is that you are putting in your mouth or about the amount of toys carried in a store.
3. You LOVE going to the restroom; except when you have company.
4. It makes a BIG difference when the house is messy when you wake up.
5. You will use the TV as a tool.
6. You will smile a lot more.
7. You will meet people easier.
8. You will become a lot more organized or disorganized; your choice.
9. You will lie a lot! Just wanted to re-emphasize that.
10. You will know if you are ready for another kid; I’m not…at least not right now and I am really ok with that.
11. Your kids thrive with another child in the house; this makes me a little sad I am not ready for another child.
Overall there are SO MANY JOYS and some headaches with parenting multiple children. All in all be prepared and have FUN because things often will not go your way but then you realize that you were CHOSEN to lead this little person in life and gratefulness sets in.
Always with love,
Today at dinner, while our daughter slept (parents of small children know that deserves a whoop whoop); my husband and I talked about how fast life is moving now that we have a child. After some discussion we realized time wasn’t moving faster…not at all…our time just has more meaning now. I won’t go into how much meaning our lives had before her (it did), but will just sit in the fact that our lives have even more now.
For that I am grateful.
Always with love,
What better way to celebrate Independence Day than commencing my training for my first 5k! I started this journey a few years back and quit but this time is different. This time not only do I have SO MUCH support from friends who run but I have that precious little girl that will start mimicking my every action…this is one I won’t mind her replicating. Wish me luck!!!!
You want to know when my husband and I fight? When one of us is trying to control the other in some way.
Sure we have those typical couple fights: money, waking the baby, what do you want for dinner (why is that always such a hard question).
But when I get down to it most of our fights are about some element of control. But the big question is why?! Why are we trying to control one another and for what purpose?!
Some of the reasons I thought of were: for safety (“babe get off that ladder it’s broken”); for companionship (“I don’t want you to go out tonight”); but the one that made the most sense was for self improvement.
Wait, Modo how do you control someone to improve yourself?!
You can’t! But this is how you fool yourself into thinking you can. Peep the scenario below:
My hubby and I started this meal plan. I bought all the food. Prepped. And printed out the list. The first day while he was at work I cheated. Yep before lunch I at chocolate. The next day he was going to cheat and I went IN on him. Then I realized I wasn’t going off on him I was really going off on myself. I didn’t want to do that damn meal plan in the beginning. Who was I kidding?
I needed to improve my eating habits, so I decided to control my husbands. Sound insane?! It IS!!!!! Lol
I told y’all to pray for me.
Ultimately we have to do US! Focus on you. Make YOU a better YOU! When we both focus more on bettering ourselves and just loving the other person we have the best days. Those are the days we kiss the most, laugh the hardest, and fall in love again.
Anyone else have crazy stories like this? Anyone feel my pain?!
Always with love,
Hey Tootsie Roll,
These past two months have been all about celebrations; not only holidays but also celebrating you hitting some pretty big milestones. This was your time to shine and you did! In two months you crawled, stood, and took your first steps; and let me say you LOVE your new independence. Your first steps were with your favorite person in the world; Daddy! At first Mommy was super jealous that I missed it, but after some thinking I am really grateful you chose Daddy to have that moment with. He works so hard all day and misses out on so much of the small things day to day with you, so the fact that you gave him such a big moment was so thoughtful….and it was on his first Fathers Day weekend! How perfect was that! Another big moment was you finally started eating solids! You decided that you wanted to try strawberries while we were at a restaurant…we didn’t mind that part at all…it was the fact you were in ALL WHITE and wanted to feed yourself. It was a mess! Before you left the restaurant you were stark naked and we had a table full of used wipes and napkins LOL! It was such a perfect moment. Some of your favorite foods are: mango, peaches, strawberries, and carrots. You are a sweets girl for sure. Lastly, we celebrated Mommy and Daddy’s five year wedding anniversary and you stayed with Granny for your first time away from both Mom and Dad. You had a blast and so did we! It was the best feeling racing up the stairs to see you after our night out. Thank you Mom for the time off! All in all it was an eventful two months that I wouldn’t trade for the world.
Other things we noticed:
-You are trying so hard to talk
-Sticking your tounge out…It’s quite hilarious
-Still no teeth
-You try and answer my phone when it rings
-You have become pretty good at mimicking
-Your crib! It took some time, but you actually sleep all night in it.
-Climbing! You still love this and climb on everything: the couch, my legs, the bed, the tub..
-Outdoors. You squeal when I turn the doorknob to go outside.
-Spitting! Mama does not like this one
-The mobile above your crib…this is how mama escapes to the restroom throughout the day.
You could pass on:
– Mommy’s puree combinations. You immediately tell me when I am off the mark LOL. We finally found one you like: oatmeal, carrots, and pears.
-Waiting! You have become quite impatient lately.
-The swing. This was your favorite thing in your room for the past three months and then one day you refused to get in it and never turned back.
-Your walker…it’s a hit or miss but you much rather be held or crawl
Love you for always,
Slow food 😋!
I HATE fast food. It never has any color…well because it’s dead. Crock pot is my best friend…especially because I am not the best cook. Endometriosis has done one thing right for me and that’s taught me to eat better. I am grateful because REAL food taste so much better.
Always with love,