Monthly Archives: August 2013

Party of Four: Wait how much weight have I gained????

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Party of Four: Wait how much weight have I gained????

“The soul is healed by being with children.” -Fyodor Dostoevsky

We are FULL TERM!!!!

We are FULL TERM!!!!


Baby Notes
: I was one of those freaks that actually really enjoyed being pregnant. Even though my pregnancy was considered high risk for the majority of it, I had to be on bed rest for nearly five months, and I was constantly in pain; I truly loved so many aspects of the process. I will forever cherish having Genesis tucked safe and sound in my belly and feeling her roll around; I feel like those moments I didn’t have to share with anyone but the with the two of us and it started our bond that I hope to have forever. I also can’t complain about how quickly my hair grew and being waited on hand and foot at times. However, these past few weeks have been rough! I sleep about 45 minutes at a time because of the pure pain of sleeping on my hips and constantly getting up to pee. My stretch marks have taken over my stomach and literally look like ivy growing up to my boobs. But, I have to say the best part is gaining 37 pounds (to date). MAKE IT STOP! I have somewhat become a crabby patty when I sit and think about all the negatives of being pregnant and then I received one of the most thoughtful gifts from a friend. She sent me three children’s books all about women who had either been scarred or deemed unacceptable by society in some way. In her note she wrote promise to remind Genesis of Proverbs 31:30. So I grabbed my Bible looked up the verse and was brought to tears.

rough face

Proverbs 31:30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is vein but a woman who fears The Lord is to be praised.

It was so powerful to me. I thought about all the complaining I had done, but then this made me realize the true gift behind the scars and I got so emotional. In no way am I saying I love my stretch marks or that I still won’t wish they weren’t there when I put on a bathing suit from time to time, but I pray I instill strength in Genesis beyond her appearance and remind her what true beauty is. Beauty is in the process not the product.

This month in pictures:

Another picture from our maternity shoot

Another picture from our maternity shoot

My favorite picture from our maternity shoot.  Check them all out on Facebook.

My favorite picture from our maternity shoot. Check them all out on Facebook.

Genesis very first gift from Tiffanys!  She is so spoiled.

Genesis very first gift from Tiffanys! She is so spoiled.

My lovely friend that I studied abroad with hand stitched a card for Genesis, how cool is that?!

My lovely friend that I studied abroad with hand stitched a card for Genesis, how cool is that?!

Mama finally got to leave the house!!!!!

Mama finally got to leave the house!!!!!

More of her nursery.  This chair has been passed around in our family...makes it even more special.

More of her nursery. This chair has been passed around in our family…makes it even more special.

Daddy getting ready to install the car seat!

Daddy getting ready to install the car seat!

More of her nursery...

More of her nursery…

Daddy just couldn't say no to them at our local garage sale.

Daddy just couldn’t say no to them at our local garage sale.

A beautiful gift from my boss all the way

A beautiful gift from my boss all the way from Texas!

Weeks 35-38:

Nursery: We have officially finished the nursery…well at least for the time being. We have all the furniture we could fit in her room with the guest bed. We haven’t started to decorate just yet and will probably hold off on it until we set up her crib.

Appointments: During our last doctor’s appointment we saw that my fluid looks pretty low. Fluid should range between 8-20 and mine was at an 8.5 so that doctor reminded me of my strict bed rest and has me drinking a lot of fluids to try and get it up again. We also did a stress test as Genesis movements have been slowing. It took her a while but she finally hit all the marks she needed too. The appointment had Byron and I really nervous and we still are a tad nervous about the fluid, but staying positive until our next appointment.

Maternity Pictures: Our pictures are back!!!! Feel free to look at the entire collection on my Facebook page.

Parenting Classes: We are officially done with all our parenting classes. However I would like to still sign up for a baby CPR class. I am certified but really want to take the class with Byron so we are both on the same page.

Ultrasounds: We got to see Genesis a few times in the past month and she is officially a thumb sucker! I was a thumb sucker as a kid, but my mom broke me so I started sucking my tongue in secret LOL! It really was a bad habit until I was about 8 years old, so it looks like I will have to come up with some creative ways to soothe her without letting her create a bad habit.

38 weeks!

38 weeks!

Baby Updates:

Today the baby is the size of: watermelon

Cravings: anything cold and liquid (its so hot). Plus I have been having some problems with my jaw and chewing causes a lot of pain so liquids it is.

Next Appointment: Sept 5th

Mochi Update: Mochi went into heat for the first time! Her new parents said she got a little crabby during that time so they are moving forward with getting her spade. We got some pictures but I had a problem uploading them (will try and load them on my next post). She still seems really happy with her new family, but we miss her tons.

Mommy feels: GREAT in the morning for about three hours and then crashes for the rest of the day.

Coming next week: 39 week post…or a Welcome New Baby Post (crossing our fingers).

Thank you for joining us on this wonderful journey!

Always with love,
Modo

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Party of Four: What’s in Mommy’s Hospital Bag?

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Party of Four: What’s in Mommy’s Hospital Bag?

“Pretty much all the honest truth telling there is in the world is done by children” Oliver Wendell Homes

Hey Folks! We are officially 35 weeks and recently packed the hospital bag for Mom and Dad and wanted to share with you all. There are a few things not pictured that I have listed below.

Items not pictured:
1. Roll of Quarters for the vending machine
2. Byron’s clothes we packed him two pair of socks, underwear, pair of pajamas, sweater, two shirts, and a pair of pants.
3. Snacks- for during labor and after delivery
4. Ipod deck- to listen to music during labor and after delivery

Everything laid out!

Everything laid out!

Mom's Clothes 1. Dress to wear home  2. Sweater 3. Dress I have taken all my maternity pictures in to take the first day Genesis is born.

Mom’s Clothes
1. Dress to wear home
2. Sweater
3. Dress I have taken all my maternity pictures in to take the first day Genesis is born.

Leisure 1. Robe 2. Slippers 3. Socks with rib on bottom to walk in 4. Pajamas 5. Gown that opens in front to wear after delivery

Leisure
1. Robe
2. Slippers
3. Socks with rib on bottom to walk in
4. Pajamas
5. Gown that opens in front to wear after delivery

Toiletries for both Byron and I: 1. Hair ties 2. Birth plan 3. Travel sizes of: toothbrush, toothpaste, lotion, shampoo, conditioner, deodorant, chap stick, hair gel. 4. Maxi pads

Toiletries for both Byron and I:
1. Hair ties
2. Birth plan
3. Travel sizes of: toothbrush, toothpaste, lotion, shampoo, conditioner, deodorant, chap stick, hair gel.
4. Maxi pads

Electronics: 1. Camera 2. Camera charger and tripod 3. Phone chargers

Electronics:
1. Camera
2. Camera charger and tripod
3. Phone chargers

I also packed a colorful pillow so that it doesn’t get mixed up with the hospital’s, a few plastic bags for dirty clothes, some nursing pads for the ride home, and a handmade roller (made by Byron) to assist with labor pains.

Always with love,
Modo

Party of Four: What’s in my Hospital Diaper Bag?

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Party of Four: What’s in my Hospital Diaper Bag?

” We are transformed into our children, and feel more keenly for them than for ourselves” – Marie De Sevigne

Hi Everyone! So I finally finished Genesis Diaper Bag for the hospital and wanted to post the contents below for your viewing pleasure. Thank you to all the mamas that helped me narrow some things down. Just an FYI I am delivering at a “baby friendly” hospital and they provide seriously almost everything that I will need for the baby. We are not doing any pacifiers so you wont see those in the bag and my hospital supports breastfeeding first so they have a pump on site that I can use in case I need (we have our own at home that I didn’t want to haul).

Everything laid out!

Everything laid out!

Coach Diaper bag comes with a changing pad.  Thank you all for voting and choosing the bag.  I love that it isn't cloth on the outside which makes for easy wipe downs.  It has a lot pockets too which I like.  The things I don't like are: its a bit slender making it hard to pack a lot of things in it and it is white...and you know I can't get the Coach bag dirty LOL.  But I LOVE that its stylish, I would carry this bag as a purse if it was a little smaller so it meets both Genesis and Mommy's needs.

Coach Diaper bag comes with a changing pad. Thank you all for voting and choosing the bag. I love that it isn’t cloth on the outside which makes for easy wipe downs. It has a lot pockets too which I like. The things I don’t like are: its a bit slender making it hard to pack a lot of things in it and it is white…and you know I can’t get the Coach bag dirty LOL. But I LOVE that its stylish, I would carry this bag as a purse if it was a little smaller so it meets both Genesis and Mommy’s needs.

The Boppy (a gift from Byron's coworker) to aid with breastfeeding.  My labor and delivery teacher said she likes "My breastfriend" better but I have heard the boppy is better in the hospital since it doesn't wrap all the way around you.

The Boppy (a gift from Byron’s coworker) to aid with breastfeeding. My labor and delivery teacher said she likes “My breastfriend” better but I have heard the boppy is better in the hospital since it doesn’t wrap all the way around you.

Blanket to cover the carseat (thank you Janeth), 2 swaddle blankets, 1 receiving blanket (that I will most likely use for a burp cloth.  The boppy also has a birth cloth attached that I can use), and one sleep swaddler.

Blanket to cover the carseat (thank you Janeth), 2 swaddle blankets, 1 receiving blanket (that I will most likely use for a burp cloth. The boppy also has a burp cloth attached that I can use), and one sleep swaddler.

Clothing: my mother is buying her take home outfit so I brought just a few things.  Adorable baby shirt and pink pants to take her matching picture with dad, 1 NB and 1 0-3 month sleeper, 1 0-3 month outfit.  I also packed two pairs of socks, 2 pairs of mittens, and 2 hats.

Clothing: my mother is buying her take home outfit so I brought just a few things. Adorable baby shirt and pink pants to take her matching picture with dad, 1 NB and 1 0-3 month sleeper, 1 0-3 month outfit. I also packed two pairs of socks, 2 pairs of mittens, and 2 hats (pictured in the next image).

The bear hat and mittens are for hospital pictures (Thank you Heather!), a travel pack of sensitive wipes just in case I don't like the Babyganic ones, 2 newborn diapers and 2 size 1 diapers (all these articles except the clothing came in samples that I received either while registering or in the mail so it was perfect to not have to open my supplies at home).

The bear hat and mittens are for hospital pictures (Thank you Heather!), a travel pack of sensitive wipes just in case I don’t like the Babyganic ones, 2 newborn diapers and 2 size 1 diapers (all these articles except the clothing came in samples that I received either while registering or in the mail so it was perfect to not have to open my supplies at home). The diapers are really for the drive home because the hospital provides all this already.

Babyganics wipes (inside the pampers wipe case), Babyganics bathwash (I am hoping the hospital lets us use our own bath wash for her first bath), hand sanitizer (for diaper changes and everyone handling the baby), the two small containers have coconut oil (which I will use for rashes and diapers) and babyganics lotion, lastly the mess bag has a brush, comb, nail clipper, and nose aspirator (I am pretty sure the hospital will provide these but wanted them packed just in case).

Babyganics wipes (inside the pampers wipe case), Babyganics bathwash (I am hoping the hospital lets us use our own bath wash for her first bath), hand sanitizer (for diaper changes and everyone handling the baby), the two small containers have coconut oil (which I will use for rashes and diapers) and babyganics lotion, lastly the mesh bag has a brush, comb, nail clipper, and nose aspirator (I am pretty sure the hospital will provide these but wanted them packed just in case).

Not pictured: I am almost done crocheting the blanket I want her to take a picture with in the hospital.

Let us know if we are missing anything!

Always with love,
Modo

Party of Four: 34 weeks, emotional rollercoaster, nursery designs, and more pre-term labor scares

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Party of Four: 34 weeks, emotional rollercoaster, nursery designs, and more pre-term labor scares

“Parents are often so busy with the physical rearing of children that they miss the glory of parenthood, just as the grandeur of the trees is lost when raking leaves.” –Marcelene Cox

Cast Your Votes

Cast Your Votes

A little fun: Here is the link to a little prediction game we set up for Genesis. Take a guess at her weight and birth date. We will announce winners a few days after she is born. http://www.expectnet.com/games/BabyGenesis

Baby Notes: I tend to keep this baby notes section mainly informational, however, becoming a parent is a pretty emotional journey. Expressing personal emotions and feelings is risky in such a public forum, but I had to remember my sole purpose for creating this blog was to share my experience completely to help others realize they are not alone. I am pretty sure this emotional journey has been heightened for me due to my limited mobility and being put on bedrest since four and a half months, but I am very cautious of making any excuses or giving some rational and logical explanation to my feelings (I personally feel as women we tend to do this a lot, but that is a whole other blog post).

emotional rollercoaster

The day I found out I was going to be a mom changed my life forever. I immediately, literally immediately, began changing my mindset about several relationships I had in my life, my relationship with God, my marriage, my confidence within myself, even child rearing practices that I thought I would never even consider. The first few months I didn’t take it so serious, then as my belly grew so did my desire to try and “fix” all of these internal conflicts that I had with the before mentioned categories. For weeks, maybe even months I felt like I was on an emotional rollercoaster. This was demonstrated through several days of isolating (sometimes weeks), a lot of crying, and a TON of pretending that everything was okay when people asked. As I grew deeper into this process I started questioning friendships and why I had been drawn to certain people, why I always felt that I needed to be everyone’s cheerleader, my obsession with being understood and accepted by others, my fixation on being fulfilled through work performance and educational accolades, and the innate need to continue to support people even when I wasn’t getting any in return. But this process also helped me to become a best friend to my husband, learn how to say no even when pressured, securing more confidence in my truth that raising this child is the most important job I will have on this planet besides being a wife, and identify my needs (though I am still working on fulfilling them).

I have started to accept that fact (started) that all these questions don’t have to be answered before my daughter arrives. At first I felt it was a disservice to her if I didn’t. She didn’t ask to be brought into this world and I owed it to her to be at my best no matter how much or little time was given. Then I realized how completely unrealistic that was. I do believe that once you decide to become a parent that it is your responsibility to better yourself, however I think the amazing life lessons our little ones can learn from us by merely watching us become better people is also so vital. Overall I don’t think I will ever be the same Monique I was before getting pregnant; sometimes that makes me elated and sometimes it causes immense loneliness. I am learning to take the good with the bad, develop new ways to cope, and trusting in God’s plan.

This past month in pictures:

Sneak peek of the nursery.  Byron actually has a baby picture of him with this exact frog!  I can't wait for Genesis to have a matching picture like Daddy.

Sneak peek of the nursery. Byron actually has a baby picture of him with this exact frog! I can’t wait for Genesis to have a matching picture like Daddy.

In the wake of pre-term labor contractions Byron went and made the MOST amazing pain reliever!

In the wake of pre-term labor contractions Byron went and made the MOST amazing pain reliever!

Our baby shower!

Our baby shower!

3D/4D Ultrasound Day

3D/4D Ultrasound Day

Maternity Shoot Day

Maternity Shoot Day

First day in parenting class.

First day in parenting class.

Weeks 31-34: There are so many updates from these past few weeks so I put them in bullet point to keep me from being long winded.

Maternity Pictures: We had our home maternity shoot which was tons of fun! I am a little sad that we didn’t get any outside shots but I think being at home really captured our journey during this pregnancy. We have about another week before they come back and can’t wait to share them with you all.

3D/4D Ultrasound: We actually had to go twice because Genesis did not want to look at the camera the first time (for some reason this girl is in love with sleeping head down on my placenta). The second time we went back she still wasn’t willing to put on a show until the last five minutes where she actually gave us a glimpse of her dimple on her left cheek! I had dimples on both cheeks so I am hoping for a little mini me in this category. She also had a lot of hair!!!

Nursery: Genesis’ nursery is officially underway. We don’t think we will actually completely finish it until she is about three months old. Her room is doubling as our guest room as well, so with the furniture needed for guests we can not fit all her furniture in it until after we completely transfer it to her room.

Parenting Classes: We have finished 6 out of 7 of our parenting classes which have been pretty fun. It’s pretty cool getting to know other couples throughout the process and one of the couples actually had their baby and sent pictures which was pretty cool.

Belly buds: I started using belly buds for Genesis. I made her a little playlist of some of my favorite songs (including a little gospel, country, and of course John Mayer). Byron has recorded two books for her I play for her too. She literally sits still when Byron voices comes on, it is the sweetest thing.

Birth Plan: We finished and presented our birth plan to our doctor, which she took very well. The hospital has approved for me to take my placenta home after a quick blood test which I am very excited about! If you want a copy of our birth plan shoot me an email and I am more than willing to share it: Monique.a.dozier@gmail.com

Baby Shower: We had our baby shower which was a BLAST! We got rained out of the backyard so we changed to an inside location at my church which was such a blessing. I was so overwhelmed with love that day and can’t thank all our friends and family enough for everything. It was a day I won’t forget. Check out my Facebook page for more pictures I will be posting very soon!

Weight Loss: In the past two weeks I have lost almost five pounds which made me really nervous. Will be talking to doctor about this at our appointment this week.

Pre-term labor: We have had a few more pre-term labor scares which we took a lot better this time around. I immediately laid down, elevated my feet, and Byron went into action with massages. I am so happy to labor with my husband. He has really just jumped into being a great birth partner!

34 Weeks!  I looked so drained in this picture, but hey this is pregnancy!

34 Weeks! I looked so drained in this picture, but hey this is pregnancy!

Baby Updates:

Today the baby is the size of: large cantaloupe

Cravings: Chili Cheese Fries

Next Appointment: August 8th (officially start our weekly appointments)

Mochi Update: No updates this month.

Mommy feels: moments of high energy and complete exhaustion, more nauseous, and some lightheadness.

Coming next week: Hospital Bag!

Thank you for joining us on this wonderful journey!

Always with love,
Modo