Monthly Archives: March 2013

Party of Four: Just enjoy the moment

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Party of Four: Just enjoy the moment

“Children are great imitators. So give them something great to imitate” -Anonymous

Baby Notes: These past few weeks have been nothing but jammed packed, and honestly my anxiety about planning for the baby has not made it any easier to cope with. I find myself literally sitting down almost every night writing down exact figures of how much items will cost me for the baby when he/she arrives, figuring out how to save money ahead of time, researching how to avoid breast milk from drying out, and on and on and on. Without fail almost every person I talk with says “Just enjoy being pregnant, everything will work out”.

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I smile and nod, but in the back of my mind I am screaming “WHO IS GOING TO WORK IN ORDER FOR THEM TO WORK OUT???” Then I got a call that changed my life. I was informed that we lost one of the most influential people in my life: a man that treated me like one of his own, a man I deemed my godfather, the man that gave me my first job and taught me how to read a map. Bro. Payton was what I called him, but devastated was what I felt. At his service I listened to person after person tell beautiful stories about how valuable they made him feel; how when they spoke with him there seemed to be no one else more important. People remembered how he made them feel, not always exactly what he did. I realized that no matter how much I planned for this little miracle of mine that it wasn’t the type of diapers they wore that would be remembered, but how much I kissed them goodnight and hugged them when they were down. I still haven’t quite figured out exactly how to juggle being in the moment and planning for the evident perfectly, but I can say when my niece reaches for a kiss, my iPad gets put down.

Your legacy will live on forever.

Your legacy will live on forever.

Weeks 13-16: As far as appointments go, Byron and I had the wonderful opportunity to meet with a specialist to discuss how my fibroids might complicate the remainder of my pregnancy and delivery. Our specialist was nothing short of the most passionate doctor I have ever met. He not only offered advice on how to address possibly post-partum complications, but also how to just live life more healthy and from a place of happiness and gratitude. I have had very limited pain with my fibroid since my week of bed rest and I am currently deciding to believe that everything will be just as God has planned for our little one to enter this world.

I don’t take it for granted that I am surrounded by absolute amazing women in my life. So again I am so blessed to now have ongoing monthly fellowship with three of my beautiful college friends that I also get to call “sistas”. We all are a part of one of the most beautiful sisterhoods that was formed at the University of Redlands entitled “WRW”. We all are either expecting or parenting our first child. It was like being amongst the “gurus” of pregnancy when meeting with these ladies a few weeks ago. After our brunch we got to spend some magical time at a beachfront park with Lisa’s daughter, Sirena (pictured below).

Meeting Sirena for the first time.  I think I was way more excited than she was!

Meeting Sirena for the first time. I think I was way more excited than she was!

Speaking of good times, Byron, baby, and I got to celebrate Uncle Patrick’s birthday with him this year (Byron’s Brother). Byron’s brothers and I have known each other since we were kids and I am so excited to watch them play sports and spoil their little niece or nephew.

(Patrick, Byron, and Ricky)

(Patrick, Byron, and Ricky)

Last week I got the chance to watch my niece and nephew play in a basketball game in our hometown. It was so surreal for me as I was in the room when my niece was delivered; now she is almost taller than me. After the game I took a quick shot of of all the kids after realizing that all the cousins on my side of the family were together for the first time in months. Very soon Baby Dozier will be sitting right with them!!!

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Baby Updates

We are at the top of month four!!! Time is flying by.

16 weeks

16 weeks

Today the baby is the size of: a turnip

Cravings: anything anybody else is eating, fish

Next Appointment: April 5th

Mochi Update: It is getting quite difficult caring for Mochi in recent weeks. Byron and I are gone so much working and I feel terrible how much time she spends alone. We are currently trying to figure out alternative solutions to make sure she is getting the attention she needs but let’s just say we are feeling her wrath of isolation. She has start doing things like peeing in the house again and biting me when she doesn’t get her way. SOMEBODY HELP!!!! lol

Mommy feels: Pretty good!!!!! We are hoping next time the blog is updated that we will have very exciting news about the baby for you all!

Thank you for joining us on this wonderful journey!

Always with love,

Modo

Party of Four: So have you always had a problem releasing gas, or did that start when you got pregnant? (Week 12)

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Party of Four: So have you always had a problem releasing gas, or did that start when you got pregnant? (Week 12)

“Never try to make your son or daughter another you; one is enough” –Arnold Glasow

Today officially marks the start of my second trimester and I couldn’t be happier! It means it is one day closer to meeting the new love of my life. Week 12 was filled with birthday celebrations, visits with family, bed rest orders, and acupuncture appointments (never a dull moment). However, before jumping into the details of the week, I wanted to pick a short topic every week that had been a discussion with my husband, friends, or doctors and present it to you all. I absolutely love to hear feedback about how other people have utilized a resource or worked out a problem, so please feel free to drop a line in the comment section below about this week’s topic.

Happy Second Trimester Little One!!!

Happy Second Trimester Little One!!!

Baby Notes: This week was all about “treatments”. After being prescribed pain medication to assist with reducing severe cramps caused by fibroids, I felt very limited in alternative options to pain management. The doctors informed me that I could either take medication or go seek acupuncture; which at the time I wasn’t too sure I was able to afford. During the first few days I would cut the recommended dosage in half to reduce the amount of medication the baby was taking into their system; however that would leave me in terrible agony all day. Days later I went and spoke with an acupuncturists and just being in her presence made me remember all the alternative treatments I had utilized before getting pregnant to control pain including eating clean, exercising, and herbal supplements. What are some alternative treatments you utilize in your daily life? Did you utilize a certain treatment during your pregnancy that was judged by others? How did you handle it?

What is your ideal method of treatment?

What is your ideal method of treatment?

Week 12: This week started out all about the girls. I was able to spend some much needed quality time with my sisters, mom, and little princess niece Zoe. At just a year and a half Zoe teaches me every day that it’s never too early to get on your fashion game. It was a nice calm weekend, that included a lot of sleeping on the couch, playing with the kids in the backyard, and attending a wonderful church service together. FYI Zoe refused to take her sunglasses off the entire church service. After a nice Sunday morning, my older sis and I travelled down to Long Beach to visit with my Pops for a bit and then celebrate my little sister’s birthday.

Little Miss Zoe

Little Miss Zoe

Can you tell why they call us twins???

Can you tell why they call us twins???

Throughout the day Sunday I started to notice some frequent, but mild pains in my abdomen. I didn’t pay too much attention to them as I had experienced something quite similar in the beginning of my pregnancy due to the slight growth of the fibroid. By Sunday evening I was in full fledge bent over pain. Monday morning I called my doctor and scheduled an emergency appointment. That evening Byron took me into my OBGYN. We immediately checked on the baby first and Byron let out nothing short of a squeal when he saw our little one kicking and bouncing around. I have never seen him so excited in my life. It was the first time we had seen the baby actually that active. After making sure the baby was ok the doctor continued to scan my stomach and quickly noted that my fibroid had tripled in size since my 6 week appointment. She noted that the fibroid was so large that it was causing me to carry as if I was 22 weeks pregnant. The pain was associated with the fibroid outgrowing its blood supply. We were given the option to commence pain meds and stay on bed rest for one week to see if that reduced pain. In addition we were given a referral to a few acupuncturists.

This week the baby is the size of a peach!  My fibroid is the size of a grapefruit; combine that with my already expanded uterus its getting quite full in there.

This week the baby is the size of a peach! My fibroid is the size of a grapefruit.

The next few days were pure agony as I attempted to taper the pain medication to lower the chances of the baby getting addicted to them and the fibroid continuing to shoot off sharp pains every 3-5 minutes. I literally woke up every 45 minutes to 2 hours to try and find relief in another position. Days later the pain slowly began to decrease enough to where I could walk to the kitchen alone and eventually to the car. We quickly made an appointment with the acupuncturist. She turned out to be quite healing and comforting. After just one session I felt tremendously better. I have since stopped all pain medication and decided to tackle the remainder of my healing completely natural. This same approach assisted with reducing my fibroids before pregnancy, helped with boosting my immune system, and dropping pounds. While I am not interested in losing weight while pregnant I know this method works for my body and isn’t poisoning my unborn child.

Not as bad as it looks

Not as bad as it looks

Baby Updates:

Today we are: 13 weeks and officially in our second trimester!!!!

Top of week 13

Top of week 13

Today the baby is the size of: a peach

Cravings: Watermelon (still) and soup

Next Appointment: TBD

Mochi Update: I think Mochi may have had some sympathy symptoms last week because all she wanted to do was sleep!

Her life is so rough

Her life is so rough

Mommy feels: A little weak after not having much of an appetite, but feeling stronger everyday.

Thank you for joining us on this wonderful journey!

Always with love,

Modo

Party of Four: The First Trimester

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Party of Four: The First Trimester

It’s with uncontrollable joy that I start a new series to Singing With the Volume Up entitled: “Party of Four” to document Byron and I’s journey of becoming parents. This first post will be a tad longer than the normal weekly updates that will start next Friday. This initial post will highlight pivotal moments in our first trimester and catch all those up on our pregnancy journey that are not too familiar with it.

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Byron and I met our junior year in high school through a mutual friend and after a few dates were inseparable. Yeah, right!!!! He stalked me, buttered my parents up, and convinced me to take a ride in his car that broke down half way through our first date. We fell in love fast, which was easy because Byron was probably the kindest man I had ever met. Fast forward six years, we were engaged on the beaches of Malibu and on May 30, 2009 we became the happiest couple in the world when we married.

They are so cool!

They are so cool!

Waiting for my boo!

Waiting for my boo!

Best Day Ever!

Best Day Ever!

After dating for nearly 8 years before we were married, we didn’t find it any use of waiting to start having a family, we felt that our lives would be the honeymoon and why not have the joys of bringing a little one along with us. Approximately five months after we married, Byron and I begin trying for our first child. After a year of having no success I scheduled an appointment with my OB-GYN. Around the same time I begin have extremely terrible abdominal pains that eventually led to me being rushed to the emergency room. A few days later I was diagnosed with Endometriosis and just one month later I was having surgery to remove apple sized cysts from my ovaries. We were devastated. The doctors informed me that the endometriosis was aggressive and that if we didn’t get pregnant soon our chances of conceiving would be slim to none. To increase our chances of conceiving I quit my stressful job, sought a slower paced career, and packed up our lives and relocated for a fresh start. What a wonderful husband I have to agree to all this in a matter of weeks! God truly blessed me in the hubby department. It was in this new start that I was connected to an amazing fertility specialist by a very now dear friend of mine. After our first appointment it was discovered that I now had a very large fibroid that was potentially blocking access to my fallopian tubes. It was recommended that I get something called an HSG and SIS to test if my fallopian tubes were open, to measure how large my fibroid was, and if it had damaged my uterus. In late November Byron and I arrived at the UCSD Hospital to complete both procedures in the same day. It was hands down the most painful experience I have ever had in my entire life.

HSG Diagram

HSG Diagram

I cried throughout the entire process and at one point requested to terminate the procedure due to the pain. The doctor looked me straight in the eyes and said, “this is for your baby, let’s finish”, and I did. After the procedure she informed us that both my tubes were open and that the fibroid was in fact large but had not damaged my uterus. She encouraged us to try our hardest to get pregnant within these next three months as our chances of conceiving were over 30% higher. I chalked up her words as more fluff that I had heard from so many doctors and schedule our first fertility treatment appointment for one month later. As a way to boost my spirits my mother called me and reminded me about all the women that she knew that had gotten pregnant while using Geritol. I was tired; I didn’t want to do one more thing to give me a false sense of hope. She persisted so I went to the store, bought a few bottles, and we begin taking a shot of Geritol every night. A few weeks later we celebrated Christmas in Las Vegas with my family and I could barely keep my eyes open the whole time.

Christmas 2012

Christmas 2012

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We came back home and I continued to feel as if leaving the bed was harder than taking the SATs. Thursday evening I came home and started to prepare for our first fertility appointment that was scheduled for the next morning, but something in my spirit told me to take a test. HOW AWESOME IS GOD!!!!!! I was pregnant. After three tests, an ER visit, and a few phone calls we accepted that this was really happening!!!! Some say it was the HSG, some say it was the Geritol, and some say it was because I stopped trying. All these could be true, but deep in my soul I know that it was because I gave it over to God. I truly believe that He led me to every single person on this journey to teach me that it is not about the end result but the journey. Without this amazing journey I could not be a testimony to so many women that are trying to conceive, to women who think their chances are over, to couples that news of infertility destroy their marriage, to myself every time I look in the mirror.

A mother always knows

A mother always knows

Our trip to the ER to make sure the little one was really in there!

Our trip to the ER to make sure the little one was really in there!

Byron ER

The Adventures of the First Trimester in Photos (and geez was it a busy trimester)

Baby's first gift from Granny

Baby’s first gift from Granny

Shopping for diaper bags...of course mine has to be designer.  I have an obsession I know.  Don't tell Byron I have one from Juicy Courture too! Hahaha

Shopping for diaper bags…of course mine has to be designer. I have an obsession I know. Don’t tell Byron I have one from Juicy Courture too! Hahaha

He refused to carry my diaper bag so we got him his own.  He thought it would be funny to mock me with his pose as well.

He refused to carry my diaper bag so we got him his own. He thought it would be funny to mock me with his pose as well.

Baby's first visit to NYC, visiting Auntie Eb.  Obviously we are best friends for a reason :-)

Baby’s first visit to NYC, visiting Auntie Eb. Obviously we are best friends for a reason 🙂

Reuniting with one of my favorite dadas, Katey in NYC

Reuniting with one of my favorite dadas, Katey in NYC

Redlands in NYC.  We surprised Auntie Sne with the news at work and Ian almost spit up his coffee at breakfast with the great news

Redlands in NYC. We surprised Auntie Sne with the news at work and Ian almost spit up his coffee at breakfast with the great news

Baby's first trip to Texas.  Hanging out with Auntie Lindsay and Cousin Ceta

Baby’s first trip to Texas. Hanging out with Auntie Lindsay and Cousin Ceta

Nothing like family.  What a great trip to Texas.  Grandma Lynda was so happy to have all of us together

Nothing like family. What a great trip to Texas. Grandma Lynda was so happy to have all of us together

Baby Updates:

Today we are: 11 weeks & 6 days (due date is Sept 14 and the same day as my dear friend Angela’s birthday). The first few weeks we were considered high risk due to the fibroid, however the risks are decreasing every week. The doctor told us that the size of the fibroid is compared to that of a baby’s head so as I progress in my pregnancy it will feel as if I am carrying twins at some points. Geez!!!! We are hoping the fibroid reduces in size so that I can have a natural birth, but if a C-section is the worst that could happen I will take it.

Today the baby is the size of: a large plum

Cravings: Watermelon, French fries, and beef (yes sometimes all together)

Next Appointment: March 8 (we should have a nice ultrasound to share with you next Friday)

Mochi Update: She has been completely and totally a baby since I have been pregnant. When she is sleepy she will literally crawl on top of my stomach and fall asleep. I hope this means she will be best friends with the baby.

Mommy feels: A lot better than the first few weeks, however trips to the restroom in the middle of the night have slightly increased this week.

Thank you for joining us on this wonderful journey!

Always with love,

Modo